High Self-Esteem VS Low Self-Esteem

Just like the classic opposites i.e the sun and the moon, black and white, women and men, day and night, yin and yang, there are people of low self-esteem and high self-esteem. For the sake of simplicity, let us understand this. While low self-esteem people have a huge central void in their inner soul and they try to fill that hole with things like achievements, awards, and so on, high self-esteem people are the exact opposite. These are the kind of people who don’t need to fill that void. For that matter, they don't even have that void. This void. What is it? When you feel empty, lack self-love, you tend to have a void.

Some of the simplest choices that you make in daily life can determine what kind of a person you are. It can range from purchasing a bar of chocolate to making life choices. We have two sets of people obviously- High and low self-esteem. High self-esteem people value themselves a lot. They give utmost importance to themselves. While low self-esteem people put others before them and give the least priority to themselves. Now, back to the chocolate example. There is an expensive, appetizing chocolate of a really good brand (A) and another less expensive chocolate that doesn’t taste good(B). In the case of high self-esteem, the person is obviously going to choose chocolate A. Why? Because it's good and they firmly believe that they deserve it. Why? Because they value themselves a lot and care for themselves. On the other hand, low self-esteem people are definitely going to choose chocolate B, no doubt. They are compromising their needs because they don't feel they deserve it. They don't care and love themselves. Why? Because they think that ‘they are not good enough’. This is the deep root problem for every single person who is suffering from esteem issues. They have a certain benchmark that is either set up by the society or they’ve just picked up in their childhood or teenage years or much later on. Problem is, we tend to blame society for everything that's wrong. We don’t feel that we are good enough because we have a benchmark to reach. So, we decide to hop onto the race for achieving things, making an impact, and so on. But what we don't recognize is, your mental health is not in a proper state. So, chances are that most likely you won't be able to achieve those things. Why? Because you don't trust the process and even when you achieve the smallest things, you won't appreciate them. As a result, even the biggest of the biggest achievements may look very tiny for you. Surprisingly, even if you achieve things, you won't be grateful and you will feel that there’s always that huge void to cover up and you get tired. And again and again, you feel I'm not good enough. We need to understand that it is an endless loop. Once you fall into it, it's quite difficult to come out of it.

The smallest way that you start to overcome is, you need to make good choices for yourself. For that, you need to give importance and love to yourself. And for that, you need to feel good about yourself. And for that, you need to work on your esteem issues and experience situations where you feel good about yourselves. You need to feel it. You need to feel that you matter. You need to feel that you are worthy of love, trust, and care. It's you who should make all these happen. Feel it, feel it and just feel it because, in the end, feelings and emotions matter!